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支持您的孩子或其伴侣对母乳喂养的决定，不管您是否曾母乳喂养过，也不管您是否觉得自己的母乳喂养经历很“成功”。随着时代的发展，您会发现，养育孙辈的方式，与您养育自己孩子的方式，已经有了许多不同之处。这并不是在批评您对育儿方式的决定。
要鼓励母乳妈妈或新手父母可以在您的陪伴下安心自在地给小孙孙喂奶。不要要求她待在卧室或其它私密的地方哺乳，这会让她觉得自己被排斥在家庭之外。但假如是她自己需要一些私人空间，或者宝宝需要一些安静的时间，那当然完全可以啦。您的小孙孙的爸爸妈妈最清楚他们自己和孩子当下需要的是什么！几乎所有女性从生理上都能母乳喂养。然而在产后的最初几周，母乳喂养会很有挑战性，特别是如果新手父母没有掌握准确资讯的话。您可以送他们一本《母乳喂养的女性艺术》作为迎接宝宝出生的礼物，并鼓励他们在宝宝出生前参加国际母乳会的聚会。这样会让他们和当地的母乳喂养支持系统建立起联系。许多奶奶和外婆喜欢和新生儿小孙孙一起参加国际母乳会的聚会，来重温一下母乳喂养的日子。当新手父母说他们累了或者告诉您他们在苦苦努力时，不要着急给他们提建议，而要认真倾听他们的顾虑。按您的理解复述一下他们诉说的，来确保您听明白了他们在担忧什么。在提出建议前，先问问他们觉得解决问题的最好办法是什么。与他们一起想办法，可以帮他们找到一个觉得舒服的解决方案。说“有没有考虑过… …”比说“你应该… …”更有帮助。可以鼓励他们联系国际母乳会的哺乳辅导来获得母乳喂养的支持和资讯。注意，不要建议妈妈给宝宝吃奶瓶来解决母乳喂养的困难，从而削弱她们对母乳喂养的决心。绝大多数母乳喂养的难题都可以通过确保宝宝正确地含乳，并花足够的时间来充分有效地排软乳房得以解决。不要问她们诸如“宝宝吃到足够的母乳了吗？”或是“宝宝能睡整晚觉吗？”之类的问题。这些问题会打击爸爸妈妈的信心。妈妈对自己母乳喂养的能力很有信心的话，才更有可能成功地进行母乳喂养。您要理解，很多时候您都会观察到爸爸妈妈在抱着孩子。母乳宝宝会花很多时间在乳房上吃奶，也需要在妈妈的怀抱里多待一些时间。贴着妈妈的身体，会让您的小孙孙更频繁地吃奶，体重也会增加得很棒。您以后还有很多年的时间，可以和小孙孙一起玩耍，享受依偎在一起的时光。当妈妈需要休息片刻的时候，留意一下您可以和宝宝一起做哪些事情。每一位祖父母都想抱着他们的新生儿小孙孙，拍嗝、洗澡和换尿布就创造了一些上手抱抱的机会。当爸爸妈妈需要几分钟洗个澡、小睡一会儿或者只是单独待一会儿的时候，您就可以主动带宝宝在家里或者外面走走。不过如果妈妈不想让您把孩子带出去，也不要感到惊讶或觉得被冒犯了。虽然在某些时候她可能会对您这样的提议非常感激，不过让妈妈和宝宝大部分时间都待在一起更重要。主动帮助新手父母做家务。问问他们您可以帮着做点什么：做家务、洗衣服还是做饭。许多新手父母觉得他们自己应该“面面俱到”，所以要确保您主动提出帮忙，不会被误解成是在批评他们目前做家务的方式。别指望他们热情款待您。祖父母的角色是照顾好新手父母，从而让他们能照顾好宝宝。记着要持续、主动帮他们。新手父母需要几个月（甚至也许是几年！）的帮助，而不仅仅是最初的几个星期。在伴侣和支持者如何提供帮助这篇文章里，有很多建议会对您有用。阅读最新的育儿和母乳喂养的资讯。虽然母乳喂养自人类有史以来就已成为人类的常态，但近年来我们对母乳喂养科学知识的认知已有了突飞猛进的提升。国际母乳会平台（见文末）就是非常好的资讯来源。请记住，当您的孩子及其伴侣正在成长为父母的同时，您自己也在适应新的角色，并和您的孩子及其伴侣建立一种新的关系。您需要花一段时间才能弄清楚您会成为什么样的祖父母。可能会不同于您自己的祖父母的样子，也不是您的父母作为您孩子的祖父母时的样子。没关系！只要您的孩子和孙辈明白他们是被爱着的，只要您相信他们作为父母所拥有的力量和能力，您就会成为了不起的祖父母！国际母乳会的哺乳辅导很愿意回答来自妈妈、爸爸和祖父母们的关于母乳喂养的问题。请点击《国际母乳会哺乳辅导联系方式》联系我们。
To New Grandparents – 10 Things You Can Do To Support Breastfeeding
1)Support your child’s or their partner’s decision to breastfeed regardless of whether or not you breastfed or feel your own breastfeeding experience was “successful”. Over the years you will find many ways in which your grandchildren will be raised differently than you raised your own children. This is not a criticism of your parenting decisions.
2)Encourage the nursing mother or parent to be comfortable feeding your grandchild in your company. Don’t ask her to sit in a bedroom or other private place for breastfeeding. It will make her feel left out of the family. If she wants some privacy or the baby needs some quiet time that is also fine. Your grandbaby’s parents are the best judges of what they and their baby need at that moment.3)Nearly all women are physically capable of breastfeeding. However, in the early weeks, it may be challenging, especially if the new parents aren’t prepared with accurate information. You can give them a copy of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding as a pre-baby gift and encourage them to attend a La Leche League meeting before the baby is born. This will allow them to make connections with their local breastfeeding support system. Many grandmothers enjoy reliving their breastfeeding days by attending a La Leche League meeting with their new grandchild.4)Do not offer advice when new parents say they are tired or tell you they are struggling. Listen fully to their concerns. Rephrase what you think you heard to confirm that you understand what is worrying them. Before making suggestions, ask them what they think might be the best solution to the issue. Brainstorming ideas with them can help the parents find a solution with which they are comfortable. Saying, “Have you considered …” is more helpful than “You should do…” Encourage them to contact a La Leche League Leader for breastfeeding support and information.5)Be careful not to undermine the mother’s decision to breastfeed by suggesting that they give the baby a bottle as a solution to a breastfeeding challenge. Most breastfeeding challenges can be resolved by ensuring that the baby is latching correctly and is spending enough time at the breast to empty it fully and effectively. Do not ask questions like, “Is the baby getting enough milk?” or “Is the baby sleeping through the night yet?”. These questions can undermine the parents’ confidence. Mothers who are confident in their ability to breastfeed are more likely to breastfeed successfully.6)Understand that you will spend a lot of time watching the parents hold their baby. Breastfed babies spend a lot of time at the breast and need to spend a lot more time in their parents’ arms. Being close to the nursing mother’s body encourages your grandbaby to feed more regularly and gain weight well. You have many years ahead in which to play with your grandchild and enjoy snuggle time.7)Watch for things that you can do with the baby when the parents need a little break. Every grandparent wants to cuddle their new grandchild, but burping, bathing and changing diapers also create opportunities for some hands on time. You can offer to take the baby for a walk, around the house or outside, when parents need a few minutes to have a shower, take a short nap or just have a few minutes alone. But don’t be surprised or offended if the mother does not want you to take her baby out. She might be grateful for the same offer at some point, but it is important for mother and baby to be together most of the time.8)Offer to help the new parents by doing chores around the house. Ask them what would be helpful: housework, laundry or making a meal. Many new parents feel like they should be able to “do it all” so make sure your offer of help doesn’t come across as a criticism of their current housekeeping standards. Do not expect them to entertain you. Your role as a grandparent is to look after the parents so they can look after the baby. Remember to keep offering. New parents will need help for months (maybe years!), not just the first few weeks. How Partners and Supporters Can Help has lots of ideas for how you can help.9)Read up on current parenting and breastfeeding information. While breastfeeding has been the norm for humans back to the beginning of human history, our understanding of the science behind breastfeeding has grown by leaps and bounds in recent years. The Information on LLL platforms is a great resource.10)Remember that while your grandbaby’s parents are growing into their roles as parents, you are adjusting to a new role and a new relationship with your child and their partner. It will take time to figure out what kind of a grandparent you can be. It may not be the same kind of grandparent you had or the grandparents your parents were for your children. That is okay. As long as your children and grandchildren know that they are loved for who they are and that you believe in their strength and capabilities as parents, you will be a wonderful grandparent. La Leche League Leaders are happy to answer breastfeeding questions from moms, dads and grandparents. Contact us at La Leche League Leaders. Updated July 2022
https://www.lllc.ca/new-grandparents-10-things-you-can-do-support-breastfeeding
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